There is a saying that has been heavy on my mind recently: “You can’t pour from an empty cup.”
Self-care looks different for many, but in a success-driven world, taking time “off” can make one feel lazy or worthless. When was the last time your job was thankful you took a day off or a friend was encouraging when you canceled plans? Instead, you get praise for running your kids to three different sports in one night. You get an award for working overtime without compensation.
Well, guess what? The world won’t fall apart or the business won’t burn to the ground when you take a day off.
One of the hardest lessons in life is that self-care isn’t selfish. I have slowly realized it is my responsibility to fill my own cup so I can pour into others. When I take me time, it’s more than rest. It allows me to have energy for my family, I am calmer, and my mind is clearer.
Self-care will look different for everyone, but moms are guilty of mistaking basic human needs for self-care. An uninterrupted bathroom break, a trip to the grocery store alone, or a longer than five-minute shower are not considered moments of self-care. These are basic human needs. As moms we often feel the burden of taking time for ourselves and opt for these little moments, but that isn’t going to fill your cup.
I encourage you to find something you enjoy to fill your cup. To some, that may be taking a walk, going to a yoga class, or binge watching your favorite TV show. These activities are a great way to stop, recharge, and slow down. Filling your cup shouldn’t be a chore. That old saying, “It takes a village” is so accurate when raising children. Your village doesn’t have to be family; it can easily be taking a neighbor’s kid to school so she can stop and get a cup of coffee. Give help and allow yourself to receive it. It’s okay to say no and not continue to push on when you’re at the edge.
I understand everyone might not have a support system to lean on when they are feeling empty, but if your loved ones can, don’t be afraid to ask for help. They may not even realize your cup is empty. How are you filling your cup?
