I recently came across a social media post about a couple who made taking care of each other their top priority. In fact, they honored each other so much that they made a game of it. They had an ongoing competition to see who could perform the most and the best acts of service and kind gestures for the other.
Each day goes something like this: He jumps out of bed in the morning to make her coffee just the way she likes it. Then she fluffs his towel in the dryer while he’s in the shower so it is nice and warm for him. So he starts her car and gets it warm before she leaves for work. And on and on they go, all day long, looking for ways to honor and spoil each other.
Another guy on IG said he wakes up every morning and immediately begins to think of ways to make his wife’s life easier. Countless influencers say the best part of their day is doing thoughtful things for their spouse.
My first thought after seeing these stories was “they must not have kids!”
While I love this idea (I really do!), I have to be honest here…my husband’s comfort is not always the first thing on my mind when I wake up exhausted, have to get two kids ready for school, spend a full day of mentally draining work, and then come home to cook dinner and try to keep the kids off their screens until I finally get to crash into bed. That is not the reality every day, of course. But it’s enough of them that I sometimes get lost in that cycle. And a lot of the time, I forget to show appreciation for my husband. Not because I don’t love and appreciate him, but because I’m busy. I’m tired. I’m overwhelmed.
And so, I am not always intentional about finding small ways to honor my husband. And that makes me sad, because he truly is my favorite person in the world. He is my person. He’s a fantastic husband and father. He’s smart, witty, kind, and thoughtful. He is always there, constant and steady, and I never ever have to question his dedication to me and our family. And so sometimes, I do take him for granted.
So all of this got me thinking: now that the interminable month of January is behind us, February brings a golden opportunity. What if I spend the entire month of February being a little more intentional each day in showing my husband – my favorite person, my Valentine – how special he is to me? It is the month of love, after all.
What if you did this for your favorite person?
What if we make it our mission in February to really spoil them well? What if we put in a little extra effort each day to go out of our way to make them happy, to make their lives a little easier? Some days we may have the energy for a grand gesture, but mostly I’m talking about small, everyday things that show them we care. What if every single day in February, we make it a point to love on our person – with no expectation of anything in return – just to acknowledge and appreciate all of the wonderful goodness they bring into our lives. What if we make a point to celebrate them, appreciate them, and make sure they feel loved?
