If I took a poll, I feel confident most of us would say we liked, better yet, loved our husband. Then why is it the new norm to bash our husbands on social media? I have seen countless women, women I am friends with, take jabs at their husband on social media. This has to stop. Don’t get me wrong; we all get frustrated sometimes when our husband “never” does the dishes or laundry. Maybe he didn’t help you with the kids for the 100th time this week when you needed him. But does warrant public shaming?
Imagine if the roles were reversed…do I even need to go there?
Women would be shouting from their rooftops, “DIVORCE THE MAN!” Husband bashing isn’t just limited to Facebook. Turn on any TV and you will see a storm of movies and shows where the dad is portrayed as an idiot or deadbeat. King of Queens, Everybody Loves Raymond, Home Improvement, One Tree Hill, Reba, and Gossip Girl. These husbands are all portrayed as lazy, dumb, idiotic, and vile. Why does Hollywood do this?
Maybe he doesn’t take out the trash the first time you asked, but he does go to work every day to make sure you have dinner on the table and the kids have cleats to wear. A bad wife takes everyone’s advice, but her husband’s. The ole phrase, “misery loves company” could never be more true. If you seek advice on Facebook, you will likely receive advice from bitter women also feuding with their spouse. Have you talked to your husband about his wrongdoings or no-doings? I don’t mean nagging, yelling, or passive-aggressively stating the laundry should have been done days ago like his mother. I mean truly sitting down and having a conversation with your husband.
Talking negatively about your spouse will also affect your children. We often teach our children, “Say something nice or don’t say anything at all” yet in the same breath we call our husband lazy. This type of behavior also teaches our children a negative view of men and marriage. Our children only see what is directly in front of them and arguing or complaining about a situation that occurred six hours ago paints a very unfair picture for them. All they see and understand is mommy and daddy yelling at each other and calling each other names (which we teach is unkind).
I will say it: we need a spouse. They comfort us, balance us, encourage us, love us, and support us. I would be a lonely miserable woman without my husband. I am proud to say I love my husband. Instead of showing the world the many things our husband doesn’t do, we should show the world that happy marriages exist with truly good men.
