I Hate Valentine’s Day and Here’s Why

I Hate Valentine's Day and Here's Why
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Before you throw Conversation Hearts at me, hear me out.

According to the National Retail Federation’s survey, individuals said they would spend an average $161.96 this year on Valentine’s Day. That’s up 13% from last year’s $143.56. If you’re married, that price doubles. We are almost forced to celebrate a holiday that has no meaning. It doesn’t reflect when my husband and I were married, when our baby was born, our birthdays, etc. This holiday has no personal connection to anyone except the loving couples who were engaged or married on Valentine’s Day (cough, cough mom).

My problem with V-day began at a young age.

I remember around the time I was in third grade; I was carefully reading each valentine to determine who’s name I would put on which card. Goodness forbid I gave a boy a flirty card (do other kids even read them?). This continued onto middle school and high school. Let’s not talk about the carnation surprise or box of chocolates you can pre-pay to be delivered to your crush in class — talk about the ultimate shame and embarrassment. For the record, no I never received one. No one broke my heart on this overly romantic day, and I am not single. I am happily married to my husband, who doesn’t need one day a year to make me feel love and appreciated. I don’t want $80 roses and $20 box of chocolate.

Do you know what the best day of the year is? February 15th, 75% off candy!

To add to my long list of reasons why I hate V-day are valentine card boxes. How many of you all rolled your eyes? I hear ya! If you don’t know what I’m talking about, a simple Pinterest search should help. This has turned into a parent competition with who can make the most spectacular princess unicorn card box accompanied by a shimmery horn, voluptuous eyelashes, and an ombre of pink to purple skin. If your daughter really likes a challenge, how about a Starbucks pink velvet Frappuccino box with whipped cream and a swirling Pirouline? I would love to hear how many of you all have already started constructing these beautiful papier-mâché masterpieces. Fortunately, I am a boy mom and a race car can easily be constructed in under five minutes.

Over the past 15 years, what used to be a private romantic holiday has turned into a complete public declaration of love. If you write a 1000-word mini-blog about your love on Facebook, do you still buy a card? What is the protocol? You’re probably thinking, “I would hate to be her husband.” He always buys me something even though he knows how I feel. Last year it was half-dead carnations and a big bag of Dove chocolate. Some of you may have spat at his effort, but that was all I needed. We had a six-month-old, were sleep deprived, and he worked all day at the hospital. He went to Kroger and bought what was left. I was surprised and ecstatic.

This year, you won’t find me posting my “I love my husband because…” picture on Instagram. I will be busy camping outside of Target for 75% off candy!

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Hi, my name is Kailey. I am a Registered Nurse turned high school Health Science Teacher. I am a proud wife and mom of 1. My sweet Brady (any football fans?) was born in August 2018. I am a Knoxville native and absolutely love the area. Where else can you drive to a beach, major city, or mountains in less than 6 hours? I married my husband in May 2017, we have known each other since he was 16. I love all things true crime, Disney, crafts, and Mexican food . If we aren't at work you will find us traveling or planning our next trip. We have a passion for traveling and our goal is to visit all 50 states. I do also work as a travel agent. I absolutely love planning vacations for families. I have been a travel agent since 2016. At the end of the day all we have left are memories, I make sure each and every family creates lasting memories. I'm most certainly not an expert on being a mom, but I hope to add some experiences and outlooks being a "millennial mom".


  1. I feel the exact same way. I’ve asked my S/O not to celebrate on the 14th every single year. I love flowers so we go out when they go on sale and buy some. I sneak out the day after and stock up on candy.

    My daughter was in kindergarten last year. I felt like a poopy parent when I got in the car rider line and didn’t have balloons hanging out of my car, giant gift baskets in the passenger seat, or writing on the window. My kid got in the car and said “Why doesn’t our car look like that.” I told her we didn’t have enough money for that but I’ll take her with for my Valentine’s Day tradition this year.

    The 15th rolled around and my at the time five year old daughter climbed in the cart and helped me pile candy in. We went home and we ate. She told me she liked it better this way. So we will do it again this year!


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