I am so tired of being Hey girled.
Iām tired of my Facebook friends turning into salespeople and seeing me as a potential buyer, rather than as a friend.
I miss the days when a friend messaged you to GENUINELY catch up because they miss you, not because youāre on their list for a potential downline or buyer.
I miss the days when I didnāt need to have my guard up every time an old friend wanted to catch up.
When did social media friendship go from being genuine to strategic?
It seems like once a week, I get a message riddled with at least 20 emojis asking me what’s holding me back from buying a product, an invitation to join a sales team, or a random “Hey Girl!” from someone who just started selling. Even when I don’t respond, the messages keep coming. When I say no, they ask, “Can I ask what’s holding you back?”
This is so uncomfortable and so unnecessary.
Facebook Salespeople, when you start to send someone a message about trying your product, consider that the same message has been sent at least twice before. The markets are over-saturated, buyers are becoming aware of sales tactics, and people are getting annoyed with the persistence.
And while itās confession time, letās just get this out of the way: About three years ago, I sold makeup for a few months. I mostly had a little setup at events for people to shop, or offered to host an online party here or there. I REALLY hope I didnāt “hey girl” anyone, but maybe I did. Iām cringing right now at the thought.
Iām not attacking the products themselves. I tried the Plexus pink drink — it was delicious. I diffuse my essential oils daily. I loved the Rodan & Fields Unblemish line. Iām wearing my Lipsense right now! I bought from women to whom I went — they didnāt come to me and I didnāt get Hey girled.
Ladies, if your product is good, let it shine.
Iāll be honest; most of my annoyance comes from the tricky sales tactics. Friends arenāt supposed to intentionally deceive and use trickery to try and get you to spend money. Where’s the transparency there?
The flattery approach:
āIām looking for 10 modelsāā¦ no
The faux relationship:
āHey, howās your family?ā
I havenāt talked to you in six years, but now that you sell fitness shakes, youāre trying to build a friendship with me. This doesnāt seem genuine at all.
The mystery line:
āHow would you like to make money from home?ā
How? WE ALL WANT TO KNOW!
And here comes the infamous lineā¦
“PM me.”
Because curiosity will make some people privately message you and then theyāre hooked a little deeper.
The worry trick:
āLadies, if youāve had a C-section, you need XYZ benefitsā¦buy this supplement to help.ā
āIs your child getting enough vitamins?ā
āAre YOU getting enough vitamins?ā
Making people second guess their life choices and worry about what goes into their bodies is a sneaky way to make some sales.
Tricky wording:
āI need five product testersā
You need five buyers, actually. You know and believe your product is great, and (hopefully) thatās why youāre selling it.
Relentless messaging:
January: “Hey girl, have you heard about my product?”
(no response)
February: “Hey lady, Iām running a special…”
(no response)
February again: “Hey girl, did you get my message?”
(no response)
March: “Hey girl, I have two spots open for a party, would you like me to give you a spot?”
(no response)
April: “Hey lady, just making sure you got my message about the special.”
(no response)
April again: “Hey ____, Iām looking for three product testers to buy my product at my price.”
(no response)
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In closing, can we cool it with the selling and cold messaging? I need more food, cats, and funnies on my newsfeed.
Great info! And I have to admit, I’m guilty of one or two of these. š
I love your honesty and now I know better.
Hey, we’re only human! I was guilty too! It’s always good to step back and reflect š
THIS!!! Totally agree. When I get one of those messages, my mood goes from “Yay! A friend wants to see me!” to “Oh… she wants to sell me something and probably doesn’t even like me.”
Yep, total mood killer š
So true!! If Iām looking for your product, I will ask you!
Amen sister!
OMG! Thank you for writing this. When a girl you barely knew in HS starts sending you PM’s about HEY GIRRRRRRL I WAS THINKING ABOUT YA TODAY! The block button sure comes in handy.
I’m glad you liked it! lol YES I’m usually like, “Okay, what are you selling?”
Very interesting! I always try not to be “salesy” or share product in my personal feed. I have a question though, you say you like the products and will ask for them, but how did you first get introduced to them in a way that didn’t feel impersonal? How did you know to ask those ladies if they never offered?
I mostly go on word of mouth from friends. I’m most likely to purchase a product if someone (not a seller) is raving about it. If the seller is raving, well.. of course they are.. they want to make a sale! But if I see non-sellers loving it, the product intrigues me. From my perspective, it seems like more of an honest review. I hope that makes sense. Personally, I don’t like my Facebook friends to message me offer me products at all.
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-dream/id1435743296?mt=2
Have you listened to this podcast? It takes your sentiments to a whole other level. It was absolutely fascinating!